“Betrayal is the only truth that sticks.”
― Arthur Miller
To speak about betrayal is to speak about love, for i cannot possibly find a better opposite to faith/ trust/ surrender. I am horribly inept in all things romance, and to speak is to have knowledge and experience and I cannot claim either, let’s just say I am well guarded, and confess for the first time in my life that I have deep trust issues, my cuts can run deeper than most so I’m weary. It’s true that no one can escape betrayal/ deceit/ hurt … but we all do what we gotta do and there is no shame in that.
What I am gonna do though is share what my tradition says about love and how God describes this connection between humans, and because in only God I trust, I chose to abstain from what falls short of this beautiful image, besides I have always been a really and honestly happy – and very sexy – single:
“And of God’s signs is that He created for you, a twin from your own self (soul mates), that you might find home and peace in them, and God has set between you love and mercy. Surely in that are signs for a people who consider” – Quran
So we got the usual love (as per Hollywood). Now home and peace are pretty unique in our modern day romances, but mercy, ah THAT is something. What is the minimum of mercy: Do No Harm
Nuff with the detour, let’s continue where we stopped here
There is a tomato on the table, you see it, it’s there you can touch it. What about the back of the tomato? Can you visualize it even if your eyes cannot see it?
You got a text with a language you don’t comprehend (no google translate) it contains all sorts of profanity, would you feel offended by just looking at it?
Folks, our perception is based on more than our five senses; it relies on experience and context as well.
So i believe I can see the back of the tomato although it is out of view because I have a perception of it, an experience, a background.
In addition, what a tomato looks/ should look like does not exist because this is the reality of all tomato in this vast universe, but because this is what I know.
Therefore, what I know is simply what I believe exists/ is real/ all is.
Now what creates this perception?
You name it, everything from history, politics, education, age, experience, gender, trauma, parents ….etc in short every single data; visual, psychological or physical that enters our being from day 1 in life (some say even earlier) will form that perception and unless we are constantly and actively engaged in questioning OURSELVES AND WHAT WE KNOW AND LIKE AND BELIEVE IN we are just going along with what is, we are no more than one who wears rose tinted eye shades. Yes he sees the world and images, but through the very colors of his spectacles.
Now is that bad/ evil/ wrong? Nope, it is human, and therefore 99% of people go about their lives, happy, content, doing and being good and then dying just being that.
Is there a time when someone must examine, must dig deep, must find different answers?
YES, when they are not content, not fulfilled, their world is falling apart, they keep making the same mistakes, when not aligned with who they are but most pressingly when they believe there is something more/ better and bigger up there than our small limited selves …
This topic did not leave the building … to be continued …